Oh the guilt! Today was pajama day in honor of Dr. Seuss' birthday. Lo and behold.. I forgot. We got to school and the tears flowed because my DS (dear son) was not wearing his pajamas - mommy forgot! As he clinched his arms around my neck and bawled his little eyes out and I'm standing there, already late for work, my heart just broke into a million pieces.
How can I be such an absent-minded mother? What a bad mom I am. And to make it worse, I said goodbye to him, letting him think I went off to work. but little did he know that the guilt/love I was experiencing would lead me to call work, tell them I'll be late, negotiate traffic back home, grab pajamas, negotiate traffic back to the school -- all so my DS would have a good day! Whew!
TADA!!!! I'm back!! and WITH PAJAMAS!!!!! MOM'S A HERO!!! YEAH!!!! The world is a better place now that mommy returned with pajamas!
Oh, if my only worry could be to not forget to wear pajamas to work!
Which leads me to my next pondering to ponder... lately the debate over SAHMS and working moms have come back into the spotlight. I've been on both sides of the coin and I believe there is no RIGHT or WRONG. When I was home, I felt guilty about spending money on myself without contributing to the overall fiscal health of our family. When I'm at work, I'm guilty of not being available for classroom parties and field trips. So I frantically fret over finding some "happy" medium. -- HA!
But you see, there is always a balance going on in the world... If all mothers stayed home, there would be too many to volunteer for those activities and some of us would be either puttering around anyway with other chores or tasks. I figure if I'm going to toil away at something, I may has well get paid for it.
I'm of the opinion that this whole "debate" between SAHMS, WAHMS and working moms is a totally contrived argument. We as parents do what's necessary to keep our family's stable. Whether it's depending on us to provide some financial assistance to do those special activities, or if it's being present for them. We do what we need to do, when we need to do it. Some of us may flip back and forth between being a SAHM and being a working mom. Some of us go the "middle road" and find success as a WAHM.
More power to all of us for being so flexible and resilient.... and, more importantly, able to bring pajamas on pajama day.
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You're an awesome writer! I really enjoyed reading this! I struggle with this, as well. I long to be able to stay home and be more present in my kids' schooling, but I need to work to be able to afford life as I know it...mainly scrapping for me and cheer for the girls!
I'm glad he got his PJs and you were able to restore his smile!
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